But first, I do truly think everyone would be better off if they evaluated people less superficially.
At the same time, telling people they are wrong for liking or preferring certain features is never, ever, ever going to work. Just ever. It will only make the world worse. It won’t change anyone’s minds and it will only cause people to code their preferences differently, and to obfuscate them.
The problem is that there is no path from the current state (people have fairly-strong and nearly-unchangeable sexual and relationship preferences that are solidified pretty early in life) to the desired result (everyone should in principle and in practice be attracted to everyone else for some reason or other).
The list of women I would not date for various reasons (physical and other) is vast — it’s nearly 3.6 billion people. And that’s just women. There’s a list of men that’s just as long!
I am so evil that I would not date approximately 7.1 billion people no matter what. Damn. Get me my Loki headpiece.
Look, I understand. As one who was often in life considered not the ugly duckling but the ugly duckling’s shit stain, I know very well how it feels for people to just pass you over for something you can’t control and can’t change.
It’s hard and it sucks. But mandating it and shaming people into being attracted to you is…better? Somehow?
This as usual reminds me a lot of the ninny-filled MRA movement.
BTW, using s.e. smith’s framework, one of the most discriminatory features of the dating market is that the vast, vast majority of women will only date tall men.
Notice how little ever gets written about that. Hmm, wonder why that is?