Although I haven’t released the full study yet, of the hundreds of men who filled out my survey for high earning ($200K+) men, 94% of married or otherwise partnered high-earning men had a partner with at least a college degree, and 77% of them had a partner who worked.

I did not fill out this survey, but I am in this group. And though I am not actually married I’m as good as. That said, I want my partner to work because I want her to have her own independent life. She’s not some extension of me. If something happens to me, I want her to be ok financially and career-wise.

But it’s also because I want nothing to do with unambitious women. I likely would not date or be with anyone who did not want to work at least most of the time. Even if she’s doing art or something. And I mean really doing it, not futzing around with some turd for two hours she sells on Etsy for $3 once a month.

And selfishly, if I get sick of it all and decide to throw in the towel for a while or forever, it makes it easier on me if my partner works (though I’d still pay my share, I just mean that it’s a lot cheaper to live as two instead of a singleton). Of course, the same goes for her. Unlike most, I actually believe in equality.

Wanting a woman who doesn’t work just mostly means you want a bangmaid (at least for most men). And that is not the life nor the partner for me.