Saying you're not a woman feels like insisting you don't have money. Like, I understand you believe that, and I understand your relationship to money is different than mine, but at the end of the day the practical effects from this giant social illusion *still exists*.
— Aella (@Aella_Girl) April 22, 2020
Being non-binary or agender or whatever just highlights gender more, which is what Ada Palmer was getting at in part of her Terra Ignota series.
There is no opting out. And I believe at least part of this is biological/genetic, which will piss a lot of people off. But it’s more complicated than what people usually mean by “biological/genetic” by which I mean it isn’t the same thing as “hard-coded.”
Opting out of the gender binary is nearly as hard as opting out of gravity, despite the former being at least mostly socially constructed. In other words: Not. Gonna. Happen.