If the parenting effort is 'unpaid labor', then is mating effort (time & energy invested in courtship) also 'unpaid labor'? https://t.co/H0YOEEEA5F

— Geoffrey Miller (@primalpoly) May 7, 2020

That’s a really good question. I have mixed feelings about it. Women underestimate hugely the time and effort most men put into this task, and how much women force them to do to this to be considered, so I think most women will be against this.

Part of it is that liberals believe that “sex and a relationship is voluntary” or some such shit, which it is only in the most narrow and scientific of senses (in a way inapplicable to the real world). Think about it this way: general social connection is also voluntary, but most liberals believe (correctly) that solitary confinement is torture. Togetherness, sex or its lack is for most people extremely similar to solitary confinement. Thus, it is in fact torturous.

Why libs deny this I have some ideas about, but it’s too long to explore in this post. As to the original question I do think that mating/courtship is unpaid labor that mostly falls onto men but that it’s not quite as socially necessary as what women do.

It’d be impossible to organize, but I think it’d be amusing if men just stopped doing that labor for a few years. You’d see a lot of very weird behavior from women as in this area I don’t think they realize how much entitlement and expectation they have.

Of course, if women stopped doing all their unpaid labor society would basically grind to a halt, and pretty quickly too, so that should give an estimate as to which is more important, ultimately.