I think a lot of people try to attract too broad an audience while dating. From my experience, if you are 60% attractive to 50% of potential partners that’s going to result in a lot fewer dates than being 80% attractive to 20% of people, because it’s a winner takes all game.

— mrobbyg (@bobbygforlib) June 8, 2020

Agreed completely.

I’m not attractive to most women. The vast majority, actually — though I think it has increased a good deal recently because of my high level of physical fitness now.

Anyway, I think I’m only attractive to any extent to about 10% of women, and to a subset of those 10% I’m very attractive indeed. Attempting to go after that other 90% would’ve been a huge mistake, because there are millions of women in that 10% who really dig me potentially.

I think that’s where a lot of people go really wrong in dating, being mildly appealing to everyone instead of attempting to be desirable to the people most likely to get you on a deep level.