What is your reason for taking things slow in dating when you actually like the woman?

Women believe they can smell desperation from 1,000 miles away. And sometimes they are even right. But they are extremely oversensitive to it, so they often interpret any interest as desperation. And that makes them disappear posthaste.

So contrary to clownish advice, it pays to be diffident and stand-offish with most women in the first few weeks or months. Or to take things “slow” or however you prefer to put it. Obviously, you still must be present enough to keep her interested. You can’t just ignore her. Women are going to hate this, but some effective strategies are:

• Take a long time to respond to text messages, but gradually answer more quickly
• Make a date then break it (but reschedule!)
• After the second date, make her reach out
• Hint that she’s not the only option, you’re just seeing what’s out there

After a bit, you can ease off and act more normal if you’re really into the woman. The goal here is to not trip her miscalibrated “desperation” vibe sensor, not to be cruel. Because with most women, if you don’t follow my advice above you’ll find yourself alone. Once you’ve tripped the faulty “desperation” sensor it’s over forever.